Quick answer: By reading women’s fiction.
“In the Herald recently Dr Byrski wrote that men lose out badly by not reading fiction by women: “… does this account for some of what so many of us women see as emotional ignorance, and men’s inability to express their feelings or to attempt to understand ours? … So could men benefit from reading women’s fiction? I’d say without a doubt that men’s relationships with women would benefit profoundly. …
But can women’s literature help men? Byrski’s point is that it influences women over a lifetime of reading, by helping develop an intuitive understanding and providing a shared vocabulary which allows for the expression of emotions.
Perhaps women are more drawn to that kind of writing because they are naturally more emotionally literate, or more receptive to being taught. If men don’t read it in the first place then perhaps they are less attuned and less teachable.
But you can turn that on its head. If men are by nature less emotionally intuitive, then maybe they need to make a more conscious effort to learn. Literature is one obvious teacher and has the great advantage of allowing the reader to engage with emotional issues without the storm and stress of direct personal involvement.”
SpyWriter Jack King “A new King of thrillers on the horizon” http://www.SpyWriter.com